Can’t Sleep Independently
My boy used to wake up at 5am when he was a baby, but he went back for nap at 7am plus. My MIL was kind enough to take care of him for me so that I could catch more sleep. 
My boy has never slept through before he was 3! His night feeding was every 2 or 3 hours, even after he started solid. Oh boy…
My gal is a better sleeper, but she needed a lot of comfort nursing. I was her pacifier, as long as she could manage to suckle, she would doze off to dreamland. I know that this habit is bad, but mommy was too tired to get up and doze her back to sleep. Unlike westerners, most Asian babies are not left sleeping in separate rooms. Again, I guess I’ve spoiled my babies.
After we moved here, I trained them to sleep in their room. At first, I used a night light for them, but hubby complained that it’s bad for their eyes. Forget about turning off the Kichler lighting outside their room as our kids might wake up in the middle of the night and come looking for us. It took me a few months to train them to sleep on their own successfully, then hubby broke the rules. He was away often so whenever he’s not around, the kids would sleep in my room. But when he’s back, he refused to send the kids out and preferred to tug in with them. I know that he misses them a lot, and wants to spend as much time as possible with them, but this didn’t help in getting the kids to sleep independently.
No doubt, both kids are back to sleeping in my room again! Argh…Hubby doesn’t seem to be bothered by our kids who can’t sleep on their own. He even said it’s best that they sleep with us as kids grow up very fast, they will be out of the house before we know it. O.o
i don’t think is a good idea to sleep with your kids all the time. is time for them to learn sleeping in their own room. before we move to a bigger home, we shared rooms with our parents and grandparent. but once we moved to a bigger house, we’ve our own rooms.
I was used to sleep in my own bed but in my mum and aunts’ room because we had no more rooms to live in. at the age of 6 I slept for 1 year with her because we only had 1 bed (and basically 1 room) at the house. Other than that I only slept with her when I had nightmares and I dragged to her room to cuddle in her arms. I’ve never cried over not sleeping with her.
I guess it’s a matter of dosing it. Also in my family everyone sleeps a LOT, there were very few ocasions when any of my 3 cousins or I woke up in the middle of the night, usually sleep a whole night without a sound.
Ya, I guess I need to talk to hubby about training the kids to sleep on their own again since we have extra rooms. It’s going to take some time before they can get used to this idea again. Sigh…