Mothering Corner

Frankly, I don’t believe in fairy tales. I don’t believe in living happily ever after and till death do us apart as well. I don’t think that a marriage should last forever, unless both parties are willing to make it happened. I have seen a lot of divorced women who are much happier and more successful without their husbands, which they thought they couldn’t make it at first. If there is a will, there is a way.

However, I’m always touched when I see those old married couples walking hands in hands and still caring very much to each other. I have a friend who’s in her 50s but her husband is at least 20 years her senior. He is really old, and he suffered from stroke years ago. She’s taking very good care of him and to let her husband occupy his time, she lets him enjoy sport betting. You may argue that gambling is bad, and so I thought, but she said he’s not getting senile if he has something to do at his age. She does have her point, and he is not losing a lot of money anyway. At their ages, it’s more like looking for an “interest” rather than gambling. If that works well for them, what else can we say?

As long as they are happy with their lives, I’m happy for them. He’s very old now, what else do you want him to do?

My friend had just got her coverage for insurance since she was diagnosed with initial state of cancer. She has gone through radiation and she’s taking her medication now. Thank god she bought some family insurance plans so most of the medical expenses are under insured. She had to pay for the bills first, but she will get back her claims once the documentation is done. If it’s not because of her insurance coverage, I doubt she has the ability to pay her medical bills.

That’s why I always make sure that all my insurance premiums are paid online. If you are not insured, make sure you get some insurance quote from respective insurance companies. It’s best to compare the prices and coverage before you decide on which to buy.

The bank called me again yesterday asking if I’m interested to get one of their Best Reward Credit Cards. I turned down their offers because I didn’t feel like getting more cards. I have a card with a lot of reward points now and I will only concentrate on accumulating the points by shopping with that card. If you are a shopaholic like me, it’s best to have a credit card with great reward programs.

As long as you are controlling your spending well, it’s always nice to own one or two credit cards. But if you are using the card to get those things which you can’t afford, you better forget about getting more credit cards. It’s going to drag you further into debt before you know it!

My gal has a little baby doll that she loves a lot. She sleeps with her sometimes and she brings her along when we are traveling now.

When I asked her to feed her baby days ago, she lift the doll up and hug her tight to her chest. I was very amused seeing her “breastfeeding” her baby doll as if she thought that’s the only way of feeding a baby. But once I found her toy feeding bottle just now, she began feeding her doll with the bottle. LOL! So she knows that both breast and bottle are for feeding, but which one will she choose when she’s a mother?

Someone told me that a breastfed baby tends to be a breastfeeding mother. I hope that it’s true.

I know a baby who’s diagnosed with water in the brain. His father couldn’t tell me the medical term, but I Google for it and I found that it’s called hydrocephalus. It’s a birth defect where there is an abnormal accumulation of cerebrospinal fluid (CSF) in the brain that will increase pressure which may damage the brain. His baby was suffering from seizures since birth and they only found out the condition of the baby after an MRI. The doctor said that he’s going to have problem in speech as it’s affecting the left part of the brain which is responsible for speech development. Nonetheless, he’s still young and the brain might develop the skill in other part of it.

For the time being, surgery is impossible so he’s under medication. When I saw the baby, he was pretty much in deep sleep due to the medication. He takes a lot of nap and only wakes up for milk. It’s not easy to take care of him when he has seizures, so the medication keeps him sleepy most of the time.

I really hope that he is doing fine now as I won’t be seeing him often.

I have never bought a car here as it’s not necessary. As long as I have a car to drive in, I don’t mind if it’s mine. But once we move away, we need to buy 2 family cars. Hubby will be working and I have to drive the kids around for schools or grocery marketing. If we would like to cut down to cost of getting the cars, we might think about getting Used Cars instead of new ones. But we still haven’t made up our minds about this as it all depends on the pricing of the cars.

It seems to be a wiser move to get a used car only if the price is reasonable and the car is well maintained. Besides that, I’m not sure how to talk to the car dealer as we don’t speak their language! If only we can refer to some sites like BuyYourCar and look for the model we are interested in, but it’s not available here in Asia. Seriously, why can’t we have a site like this here? It’s so convenient to look for used cars based on the offer price, the location or the year of made by searching through the directory.

So, I have lots of things to do once we move. I know my blogs will definitely suffer in loneliness by then.

One of my SILs was diagnosed with gestation diabetes and she had to control her sugar level 3 times a day. She tried her best to control her diet by reducing her sugar and carbohydrate intakes so that her sugar level was under control. I was with her during our visit and it’s the first time I saw a pregnant mother who ate so few. She couldn’t eat much and seeing her poking her fingers 3 times a day really pulled off my idea of getting pregnant again. I’m sorry, but I really felt like that at that time. Come to think of it, she really did a good job taking good care of herself and her baby’s health.

She gave birth 2 days ago to a healthy baby girl. She weighed 3.4kg, even though she’s being born 3 weeks earlier. It’s nice to know that there is another new baby in the family.

Getting back to job might be tough for some mothers like me who have left their careers for years. It’s not easy starting all over again, but lots of other mothers managed to do so.

One of my friend has even made it big with her salon business and she’s expanding her business now. She’s looking for more beauticians who are interested in looking for salon job but she said it’s not easy to find a good candidate. If only we have websites like www.beautyjobs.com here, then my friend might have better luck in looking for potential beauticians.

She told me it’s not easy to start over again, and frankly, I don’t have the initiative and motivation to start a business on my own now. I’m so happy being a full time mother, I don’t feel like changing the current situation.

My boy has been to the new school for 3 days but the first day was really bad. The whole class of 4 years old was chaotic and uncontrollable. It’s really stressful for the kids and the parents. I had a really bad morning that day. Nonetheless, things got better and he was doing well this morning. Hopefully, he will get adjusted and start having fun going to school.

I haven’t enroll my little gal, she’s going to be at home with me playing games or just enjoying being a toddler. Once we have moved and settled down, I might think about sending her to school. Funnily, I think a 2 year old can be pretty boring seeing only mommy all day long. LOL!

I guess the whole nation is overwhelming by the Chua Soi Lek’s sex scandal where he openly admitted that he’s the one “featured” in the sex CD. I don’t care about what he said or what he will do. You can argue that he doesn’t have moral since he’s the Health Minister, but if he’s only working as a ordinary used cisco seller, there will not be any news about the scandal. Most men cheat, but it’s their families that hurt the most.

It’s his wife and family that I’m more concerned about. It’s not easy to her to accept this, and the same goes for the 3 children. She said that she will forgive her husband and face this as a family, but I wonder if that’s really her answer or some official statement to “save” her husband’s “face” or reputation?