Mothering Corner

I was quite shocked when I received an SMS about my SIL posting naked photos of her gal. I don’t hop over to her blog everyday, and I prefer to check out her other blog if I want to know more about her gal. When I was chatting to her just now, she was wondering why everyone’s so sensitive about the photo. Firstly, most of my readers are mothers, and we all have kids. I know that we would love to post nice photos of our kids to share those moments with our readers, but there are lot of stalkers around who “visit” our blogs as well.

Some of them might be pedophiles whom might download the photos and keep them as their own. Unless you know how to fix those privacy thing, but they can also print screen and keep copies too. So, it’s safer to post our kids’ photos with clothes on. If they are naked, just make sure that the private parts are not to be seen, no matter how blur you think they are! These psycho can be really imaginative, and how do you feel about your kids being some sexual fantasy of the pedophiles? Don’t just think that our country has lesser pedophiles. Just remember the number of rape cases involving kids and babies below one year old. Don’t you feel sick reading the news? How about the latest case where the girl was being sexually abused and murdered brutally?

In short, just be careful. You can snap a dozen photos of your kids, even if they are naked, but keep them to yourself. My SIL deleted the post after chatting with me, it’s the safest way of protecting her gal.

My 19 months old little gal was eager to go to school and I let her try for a few days. Frankly, I think it’s too early, but she was very eager to follow her brother. She didn’t even look at me during the first 2 days when I was there with her, and one the 3rd day when I dropped both of them, she didn’t wave goodbye. Gee….

She didn’t cry at all until she wanted her milk feed at 11am. It’s so troublesome for me to pick her up earlier as she got tired by that hour and couldn’t spend the whole morning at the nursery. So, I decided to drop her out and let her spend more time with me at home. I know that she’s bored since all her cousins are still in Bangkok. I wanted to bring my kids to Bangkok tomorrow at first, but hubby is too busy lately. Besides, I haven’t got the flight tickets and travel insurance, so it’s too rush for all of us.

She was very restless for the past 2 days when she’s spending time with me. I know that it’s disappointing to her, but I hope that she will forget about going to school with her brother for the time being. Sometimes, I think that the second child is too eager to grow up quickly since she has an older sibling to imitate with. She’s very eager to try everything that her cousins and her brother are doing, and she’s coping well with some of the skills which are beyond her age. BTW, she’s very social-able. Most second child has these characteristics huh?

When I’m single, I wanted to celebrate my birthday with my hubby (then boyfriend) or hanging out with my friends. I would have dinner with my parents too, but I felt like it’s an obligation rather than a celebration. But since the day I became a mother, I wanted to celebrate my birthday with my mother. It’s not easy going through the nine months of pregnancy and child birth, so I have to thank my mother more on my birthday, other than celebrating it now.

So, I guess my mother deserve to get a present more than I do on my birthday huh? How about raymond weil watches?

I have my full respect on single mothers and fathers. Hubby travels a lot, so I’m the one who is always with the kids since the day they are born. I had gone through confinement by caring for the newborn baby all by myself at night as I didn’t have confinement lady. Then there were time when I was always alone in bringing them for doctor’s visits or getting around because hubby couldn’t make it. If I have to bring food to the table, I don’t think I can handle it. Thus, I have always admired the courage of those who decided to be single parents. It’s not easy but some of them did very well.

It’s not easy for the kids, so most single parents have to communicate well with their children about their the uniqueness of their families. I used to have a student whose mother is lying about her father. She told her that he’s just working abroad, but in actual fact, the parents are divorced. But she’s only 6 years old when this happened, so I understand why her mother is not willing to tell her the truth. She has not seen her father since then, and it’s not easy for her mother as well.

So, I think single parenthood is so much tougher. I’m glad that I have hubby to take care some part of the responsibilities of our family, that’s why I have always been grateful with my life.

Before I become a mother, my world was centered around myself. I took good care of myself because I put myself in the top priority list like getting my 8 hours sleep no matter what, eating healthily, clubbing if I wanted to and etc. It’s like everything is about ME, ME and ME.

But since the day I started taking care of my kids, everything about them comes first. I have lots of nutritional supplements, but I only take them when I remember to. I used to skip yoga sometimes because my kids won’t let me leave the house. I quit my work to be with them, and I blog in the middle of the night mostly so that they won’t miss out their mommy. In no time, I feel like I’m not as fit as before.

So, since I have stopped breastfeeding, I am going to take some of the supplements seriously. Some of them are not being recommended during breastfeeding, but now I can take it. I have been practicing my yoga almost everyday, even if I don’t go for my class. I have started knitting like I used to be and I am enjoying my life a lot. Gee… Being back on my own priority list is such a great thing!

So, where do you put yourself in your list?

I have only a maid, and she’s been working for me for more than 2 years. I’m not sure if she’s going to stay for another year, but without a maid, I will just be a lot more busier.

That’s why I cannot possible go back to work, not until my kids are older. Some mothers will also think about this matter, should we go back to work? And how can we find a job? If you have experience in financial and risk management, you might want to try your luck on executive placement arranged by A.E. Feldman Associates, Inc. which has successful placements of top quality candidates at related companies. They will be able to find and match a job that fits your requirement the most.

But I think I will explore the possibility of working from home first before I go out and work. I still can’t trust anyone in handling my kids for long hours.

My kids love rice, and my mum used to teased them as “fan tong”. She said she has never seen kids who love rice so much. They can just take plain white rice without anything, so it’s very easy when we are traveling. As long as I watch their diet when we are having meals at home, I won’t mind them getting some nasi putih when we are out.

According to the article from The Star:

Rice is a complex carbohydrate packed with energy-giving starches. As it releases energy in a steady manner, your child gets a constant stream of energy to fuel his growth, learning and play. Rice provides a little protein and most of the B vitamins needed for a host of functions, ranging from energy production to promoting healthy appetite and digestion. Rice also contains small amounts of minerals including phosphorus, zinc, selenium, copper and iodine.

You may also be surprised to know that boiled rice, particularly the medium or long grain varieties, contains “resistant starch” which is neither digested nor absorbed in the small intestine. As such, this resistant starch passes into the large intestine where it functions like dietary fibres, adding bulk to waste matter and helping to promote bowel regularity.

So, no wonder we feed babies with porridge huh?

I was quite sad reading the news about an Indian girl who committed suicide because she got an D for Bahasa Malaysia. It’s really depressing seeing a girl as young as 12 years old trying to take her life away just because she didn’t do well in a public exam for primary school.

There are so many exams in a student’s life, especially to those who studied in Chinese schools. If all these students take the results so seriously, I wonder what is the purpose of going to school now? I know that my kids are going to Chinese school since hubby doesn’t like the idea of sending them to international school. So, they will be growing up in hectic learning process and burden themselves with lots of homework and exams. But I know what I can do to help them out, just let them explore and enjoy their learning process. Being a straight A student doesn’t mean you will be successful in life. It’s all about study and work smart in the world.

Seriously, it’s only UPSR…Let’s take it easy.

I hate moving from one place to another as there is a lot of packing up and unpacking to do. I don’t mind traveling, but not moving, it’s different.

But most parents failed to acknowledge that kids feel the stress of moving too. Talk to your kids about this and let them know that lots of changes will be taking place. Some toddlers may even suffer from regression so we need to be there to help them out.

Nonetheless, if you get a reliable yet Cheap Moving Company to help you out, you might save yourself some headache over the moving process. Just try to get one from Service Network if you are interested. If the moving process runs smoothly, you can quickly get the children adjusted to the new surroundings and life changes.

I won’t think about moving now, it’s not the right time yet.

Again, I’m frustrated with those splogs which are feeding my posts like crazy. Even if you give me a link back, but you can’t be feeding all my posts right? Is my post that good? Or do they bring you a lot of adsense clicks?

I don’t feel so pissed if it’s just random post but if most of my recent posts are there, I’m really annoyed. If this post is being taken, you really one big skunk head you sploger! See? I’m c*ssing here on my parenting blog. Sigh…

No, I won’t share the links here, no point wasting that outgoing link to a lousy site that the big G lets them get away with and punish other bloggers like me.