Mothering Corner

One of the main reason why I refused to move to KL with hubby, who works there most of the time is we are staying in an apartment. There isn’t much space in the apartment, and the playground and facility were badly maintained. I like the life in KL, but not the place we are staying in.

That’s why the kids and I stay with MIL. I really like our house, it’s spacious and we have a big compound for the kids to run about. If we are going to move out next time, I hope that we can have houses with big compound too. The house will not have to be big, but there should be a big garden with green grass, just like this house from San Diego Homes.

But got to wait until we have the money first!

I bought my car seats for each kid before they were born. My plan was to put them in the car seat, right after we were discharged from the hospital.

For Justin, hubby didn’t install the car seat when we were out from the hospital. I was annoyed and asked him why. The reason was MIL said newborn babies are too young for car seat, furthermore Justin was swaddled, better just carried him home. I was very annoyed about it, but what to do? The car seat was not there, so I got to carry him all the way.

So, Justin only sat on a car seat at full moon, when we bought him out for some full moon package delivery. Before that, I carried him as MIL prohibited him from sitting in a car seat. In fact, none of my niece and nephews have car seats when they were babies! Justin’s the first! And they were so shocked that I was willing to spend so much money on a seat like that!

However, after Justin got adapted to car seat, everyone praised him how a good boy he is, sitting so obediently in the car. But they forgot about the “noises” they made initially.

The same goes for Isabelle. It’s a bit harder to get her buckled up in the car seat as she always uses nursing as an excuse to get out of it! Unless we are willing to let her cry her lungs out, most of the time, I surrender. So, I’m a bad mommy on this. I know we should have stop somewhere for nursing, but sometimes, it’s quite hard to do so on the highway. I really wonder who the westerners successfully enforce the kids to sit on the car seats since young? Any tips?

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There are a few mothers whom I know that I really admire. They can manage both their career and mothering job really well, and still have time to cook for the family! I don’t have a day job, and I don’t cook, so I guess I’m not as great as those mothers yet.

Nonetheless, I know a mother who told me about her plan in pursuing doctorate degree in the future. Even if it’s just e learning, but she still need to juggle her job and her 2 kids. I couldn’t help but admire her courage and determination!

Of course, like when I was working, I have thoughts about getting an MBA too. It’s not that I love studying though, but I think it’s good to have yourself equipped with the knowledge and certified as it may come handy for promotion or career advancement.

However, not every mother can just leave their duties and pursue after their dreams. That’s why e learning is the best way for us to pursue our dream in higher education. I’m not sure which university my friend is interested in, but then, she can find out more about Capella University which has lots of courses to offer.

I went out with hubby and Justin just now. Hubby wanted to get something. We were driving around from one hypermarket to another as the first one was very congested, and we couldn’t get in the car park. By the time we had done shopping, it’s way past Isabelle’s bedtime.

As we reached home, I could hear that she’s crying and screaming upstairs. My mum told us that she was fine until bedtime. She refused to take formula and was crying for me. Oh boy, my little girl was really crying hard! I felt guilty of not bring her along as I thought we would only be going out for a while.

Poor girl, she was really insecure. My mom even complained that most breastfed babies are very clingy to their mothers. That’s why she’s crying for me, even if she is ok with grandma during the day.

Well, there are lots of myths about breastfeeding. And no doubt, one of them is breastfed babies are more clingy to mothers. However, I don’t think this is true. Justin used to be very attached to me. But now, he prefers to play with daddy most of the time. The only time when he still wants me is bedtime, and that is because daddy is away most of the time.

Thus, don’t let others tell influence you about all these myths, unless they are breastfeeding mothers too.

I bought Isabelle to Kindermusik this evening for a free trial class. I didn’t expect to see so many babies there today, and there were a lot of parents and maids too. It’s a like mini family gathering and I was the only mother alone with a baby.

It’s only a 45 minutes class, but my girl wanted to nurse before it ended. I couldn’t find a proper place to nurse as it was quite crowded, and there were so many fathers around. So how? I brought her to the toilet, closed the seat, sat there and nursed her. Suddenly, I felt sad. Why am I feeding my baby in the toilet? I didn’t do anything wrong, and why should I be finding from feeding my baby?

I have no problem breastfeeding in public most of the time, but I didn’t know why I headed to the toilet just now. It really puzzled me…….

Even if I stopped pumping now, but I still like to find out about all the latest breastfeeding gadgets like breastpumps, coolbags, techni ice, and etc. Some of the items can’t be bough from the stores yet, and I bought most of my stuffs online. I guess a lot of working mom would like to breastfeeding, but they do not know where to get the right gadgets.

So, I think if the merchants have a complete lists of potential customers such as expecting mothers from Telemarketing Lists Broker, they can get a more comprehensive database of consumers. These telemarketers will help them to promote their latest gadgets, let them know about the latest enhance features, and may even tell them about freebies which come with promotion. Since they can target only expecting mothers, the chances of getting the gadgets sold will be higher than any random advertising method.

So, mommies, don’t you wish to hear from Avent or Medela?

I got Samm’s SMS this morning, telling me that the PR has been updated, and this blog has a rank of 3. I was so happy to hear that! But then, when I got back and check, it’s still the same, as oval as an egg!

I wonder if the PR of this blog will increased or not as the traffic is pathetically low. Sometimes, I doubt I’m only blogging it for myself. So, got to do something to increase the PR huh?

Finally, I can officially announce that my site has got its new look! Previously, I was having problems with the top navigation bar as the header was being blocked by my blog skin. Thus, I asked Tina for help. Oh ya, I got this template from her! Nice leh, in pink summore!

There are a few more designs there, go check it out!

 As a mom, most of the time I place my kids as my highest priority, and sometimes, I forgot to take good care of myself. I tend to forget about my vitamins and Wakame supplements lately, and the same goes to my glass of milk before bedtime. By the time I remember that I’ve missed out my supplement intake, I’ll be working out, or getting ready for bed at 3am.

Sometimes, I feel that mothering job is tiring, but I am enjoying it. It’s just that I need to remind myself if I’m not in good condition, I won’t be able to be in my best condition for my kids. So, I make it a point to start taking good care of myself by taking my supplements, pampering myself, or maybe going for a short vacation away just by myself as my mum’s asking if she can have take care of the kids for me. So, I think I’m checking out where to go from vacations.net or other places locally. I guess I need to recharge myself.

Isabelle is only 1 year and 3 days old, but I have already “received” some ooh ahh about why am I still breastfeeding her for so long!

Firstly, I’m not from families that understand and support breastfeeding. Lots of them stopped bothering me because I was determined. I ignored their negative comments and continue to do what’s right for my kids.

My mum who turns from nagging me into supporting my decision in exclusive breastfeeding has started to make some noice. She said what I have been doing is enough for my baby. She’s old enough now, and I should wean her off to take good care of myself. When we are there, she wants to take care of Isabelle for me when we are going out. But Isabelle refuses to take formula milk, and so she got worried. She thinks that if I wean her off now, it’s easier for her to accept formula milk.

Actually, both my kids have problems with formula. Justin took about 2 weeks to 1 month to fully accepting it, and Isabelle is still on strike as I’m at home most of the time. She would rather starve to wait for me.

But then, after I weighted out the benefits of breastfeeding a toddler, I still insisted on continuing. Unless Isabelle wants self-weaning now, if now, I will still be a moo.