Mothering Corner

Hubby said that he won’t be able to hire me now, but I will still help him out with the new business. I’m not asking for any salary and why would a wife be asking from her husband who’s starting all over? LOL!

Nonetheless, I will still follow him to the office in Bangkok and our kids will come along for the first month. We have decided not to enroll them into preschool until they settle down. It’s a shocking experience to them, considering that we are planning to send them to a bilingual Thai preschool first. Our first priority is for our kids to pick up Thai fast since most of the local people only speak in Thai.

But my concern is how can we concentrate on our work when the kids are around? Thus, I have to plan their time well. There will be reading time, play time, snack time and “kacau papa” time through out the day. That means I have to prepare a simple schedule and things to bring along to the office. We are setting up a room as nursery so that they don’t be disturbing the other staffs and their daddy.

I thought of just watching over the kids at home, but hubby is not convinced about this. He said the kids will have more fun at the office instead of confining in the house all day long. He does have a point. Besides that, I can learn to juggle the kids and work just like other mothers. Maybe I need some time to get used to the transition from a SAHM to a working mother now, so let’s see how I can manage. At least it’s our own business and I’m not working in selling used cisco or anything else. So, it should be more flexible.

I might be blogging lesser start from next month, but if I need to rant, I still know where to go. LOL!

Mother’s Day is over but there is another celebration next month. I’m not sure if many of us celebrate Father’s Day, but I notice that most people around tend to pay more attention to Mother’s Day than Father’s Day. Maybe most Asian fathers are not as expressive as mothers, especially the older generation. However, I try my best to be there for both of my parents especially on their birthdays and these special days.

If I can afford it, I would love to give something nice to my dad. I stopped buying him presents since the day I quit my job and be a stay-at-home mother. If I can afford it, I hope that I can buy him an omega watch. His watch is a present from me many years ago, and it’s to change to a new one huh? I found a few nice ones from ViaLuxe, not I’m not sure how much they cost. Judging from Omega’s high quality and prestigious reputation, these watches can easily cost me 4 figures in RM, and that’s too expensive for me now. So, I don’t think I can buy one for my father in the near future, but maybe when our new business is doing well.

I like the new Omega Speedmaster 5-Counter Chronograph designed for Beijing Olympic Games 2008. It’s definitely a collectible item not to be missed. So, if you can afford one, check it out and maybe you can get one for your dad?

I finally saw my kids after 2 weeks and they were so glad to see hubby and me. They wanted to be carried by us once we arrived at the airport, and since then, they are so clingy to us! LOL! I know that they will continue to be as sticky as possible until they are convinced that we are back and not leaving again. We plan to bring the kids over on the next trip so I guess there won’t be another separation soon.

When we went to bed last night, my little gal wanted all of us to sleep in the same bed. It’s a bit cramp for all of us, but we still did it for her. She’s a bit confused with long separation from me since I’m always be there for her until recently where I need to fly to Bangkok more. But I think she will be fine after a few days, as usual.

I really admire those mothers who travel a lot and still manage to handle their kids well. I think my kids are not used to it yet, and so am I. Nonetheless, I’m glad to be back home now.

I asked hubby if there’s a Mother’s Day gift for me, on behalf of our kids who are still too young to buy anything by themselves. Hubby suggested that I wait for a few more years before thinking about getting a gift on Mother’s Day. How annoying! LOL! Actually, I wasn’t expecting much, but I’m curious to know if he will ever prepare one. I know that some fathers to prepare for their wives and I think it’s sweet.

Most of us are not hoping to get anything fancy, but of course, please don’t get anything like electrical products at best buy even if one can always find a best buy at www.buy.com. Just get something that will please a mother well.

So, what do you receive on Mother’s Day?

It was Mother’s Day yesterday, but I’ve almost forgotten about it. I’m away from my mother and MIL, and my kids are not here as well, so there wasn’t any celebration for us. Maybe we will try to have a dinner later when we get back and have a late celebration.

I have always tried my best to avoid the crowded on some special days as the restaurants are pretty crowded. Besides that, we prefer to do on other day so that we don’t have to pay more for lousy food or slow services. How petty huh? LOL!

Anyway, Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers.

Like most mothers, sometimes I wish that my little girl will grow up fine and turn into a beautiful young woman. I don’t mind if she likes to be a model or attending any beauty contest, provided that I’m well informed about it and she will have my full support. Of course, I will hope that she will continue her studies as much as possible before deciding on joining all these contests. It’s just that I don’t think beauty will last forever and it’s best to be brainy too.

So, anyone here who’s interested to be a model? Just check out http://www.lookoftheyear.com for more information. But please get your parent’s approval if you are too young to make any decision ok?

I really miss my kids but we won’t be back until another week. I’m pretty occupied with the new house here, but without attending to my kids, I hardly have broken sleep these days and I found that I’ve gained some weight! Maybe it’s the delicious Thai food too, but by not being busy with my regular mothering duties, I am more relax than before. Gosh, I really need to get some Phentermine later if my kids are always away from me! LOL!

But once we are back to Malaysia, I will be all busy attending to their needs again. I know that they will be very insecure and clinging to us more than usual. My kids need some time to realize that we are back for them and we are not leaving them again anytime sooner though.

For the time being, it will only be more MSN and phone calls. Gee…we really miss the kids.

Someone I know is fighting for a wedding despite the fact that she has a pair of twins with her partner out of wedlock. The only problem is, this man is already married, so how can he have another wedding again?

I know that most women fancy to have the perfect wedding, and I was one of those women too. I would plan almost everything from choosing the venue, flower decoration, the music, food tasting and others. I even got some ballerinas to perform for the guests and performing as flower girls. The only thing I didn’t do well was the flower decoration as I couldn’t afford to have only fresh flowers and I didn’t know where to get wholesale calla lilies and white roses at that time. Thus, I mixed the flowers with some plastic flowers too.

However, if I’m a mother of 2, I don’t think a wedding is necessary anymore, especially if the father of the kids has another family of his own with other kids as well. It’s complicated huh?

My hubby and I are quite different in our ways of watching over the kids. I’m the more protective one and he’s the one who gives more freedom to the kids. That’s why my kids prefer to go shopping with their daddy now because he’s not as paranoid as me.

Nonetheless, I still have fear of losing my kids in shopping malls or crowded places since they don’t always hold our hands at all time. I wanted to get the kid safety harness previously, but I got lots of protest from people around me who thought that it’s weird to do so in public as we hardly see parents using the safety harness here.

Thus, I’m glad another option to keep my kids located within a short distance. It’s the “Mommy I’m Here” Child Locator, and maybe it helps?

Has anyone used it? I am thinking of getting the locators, if hubby agrees with me.

I’ve been pretty busy with the house in  Bangkok and I’ve just got another batch of furniture for my kids’ room. They are going to share a room together, and I plan to train them to sleep on their own now. They have always been co-sleeping with us, so it’s going to be a huge step for all of us. I think I will just read them their bedtime stories and wait until they have fallen asleep before returning to my own room. I know that my little gal won’t go to sleep if I’m not around. However, time will come when they have to learn how to fall asleep by themselves.

I want them to have separate rooms later, but so far, the house is too small for that. We need to reserve a room as our home office and the kids’ study area, so for the time being, they will have to share the space. They are still young, so I don’t think that’s any problem about it. I shared the same room with my brother until about 10, if I’m not mistaken.

Anyway, I hope that they will like this idea and learn to sleep in separate room once we bring them here. I think they will get used to it sooner or later, so wish me luck.